“He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” Psalm 103:10-12 NIV
Who has never been harmed by the remarks or deeds of some other? Perhaps your spouse had an affair, your father continuously berated you as a child, or you went through a tragic experience like being physically or emotionally molested by a family member. If you do not practice forgiveness, you can be the one who suffers the most from these wounds, leaving you with lingering sentiments of resentment and wrath. You can embrace joy, serenity, hope, and thankfulness by practicing forgiveness. Think about the path to emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being that forgiveness can take you.
To each person, forgiveness means something different. To let go of bitterness and thoughts of revenge is necessary, though. Although the act that injured or offended you might still be with you, forgiving the offender might assist loosen its hold on you and help you break free from their grasp. Even feelings of comprehension, compassion, and love for the person who injured you might arise after you have forgiven them. While it does not imply erasing or dismissing the hurt done to you or making amends with the offender, forgiveness does create a sense of calm that makes it easier to move on with your life.
When someone you truly love hurts you, it might make you angry, upset, and unstable. Grudges can develop into feelings of hatred, revenge, and animosity if you focus on upsetting occasions or circumstances. You risk being overcome by your resentment or desire for revenge if you let negative emotions overpower happy ones. Even though you harbor resentment, you can develop greater forgiveness skills because doing so has many advantages. Some of the benefits include improved mental health, healthier relationships, less stress, anxiety, and aggression.
Forgiveness can result in reconciliation if the hurtful occurrence involved a person with whom you otherwise value your relationship. However, this is not always the case. If the perpetrator has passed away or refuses to communicate with you, reconciliation might not be feasible. In other instances, reconciliation might not be suitable. However, even if it is impossible, forgiveness is still a possibility.
You will stop defining your life by the ways you have been wronged as you let go of your grudges. Keep in mind, though, that you can not make someone forgive you. Others must forgive at their own pace. Whatever occurs, commit to treating people with respect, understanding, and compassion.